There are 4 Questions that Determine You are Stronger Than Others, Let's See The Questions and Whether You are Included

 

In any relationship, experiencing challenges is common as individuals may not always share the same perspectives. Identifying the strength of a relationship's foundation is crucial when faced with difficulties.

As a psychologist specializing in relationship dynamics, I have observed that successful relationships tend to exhibit specific characteristics. By answering four fundamental questions, one can assess the potential longevity of their relationship. Affirmative responses to these questions indicate a strong and stable connection.

1. Would you still be close friends if you were not in a romantic relationship?

The importance of friendship as the basis of a healthy relationship cannot be overstated. It is essential to consider whether the bond with your partner would remain strong if the romantic aspect were removed. Would you still enjoy their company, share laughter, and seek their support as you would with a close friend?

Research indicates that successful relationships go beyond mere passion and dedication. When individuals genuinely like their partners as individuals, the connection becomes more resilient. Conversely, some couples remain together due to familiarity, the fear of starting anew, or a sense of sunk cost, prolonging their unhappiness.

In conclusion, a strong friendship forms the core of a lasting and fulfilling relationship, transcending mere romantic feelings. It is this foundation that sustains couples through challenges and strengthens their bond over time.

2. Are you happy with yourself when you are with your partner?

When in the presence of your life partner, it is important to consider if you feel comfortable with yourself. A positive relationship with your partner should evoke feelings of support, love, and motivation for personal growth. Conversely, if you experience feelings of restriction, inadequacy, or emotional exhaustion, it is crucial to assess the dynamics of the relationship.

In healthy relationships, partners tend to exhibit the "Michelangelo effect," akin to the artist who skillfully sculpts raw materials into magnificent artworks. Similarly, supportive partners have the ability to positively influence each other, fostering personal development and growth. They actively support your aspirations, celebrate your achievements, and reinforce your self-worth, even during challenging times.

Conversely, toxic relationships can have detrimental effects on one's self-esteem and well-being. If interactions with your partner leave you feeling belittled, criticized, or uncertain about yourself, it is essential to introspect on the underlying reasons for such emotions. The emotions experienced in the presence of one's partner serve as significant indicators of the overall health of the relationship.

3. Would you still choose to be with your partner if you were certain that they would never change?

Imagine if you were certain that your partner would never undergo any changes - would you still desire to remain by their side? It's a fact that nobody is flawless, and true love isn't about turning a blind eye to imperfections. Instead, it's about understanding that these imperfections do not define your partner or your relationship. In healthy relationships, couples do not dwell on unrealistic expectations of their partner changing; instead, they focus on embracing each other in the present moment.

This doesn't imply that you should tolerate toxic behavior. Rather, it means acknowledging the minor mistakes and imperfections that make your partner human, such as occasionally forgetting to pick up their socks or repeating the same joke endlessly. If you can honestly affirm that you would still choose your partner exactly as they are, with all their flaws and quirks, then you have likely established a relationship that can withstand the trials of time.

4. Is your partner the first person you want to share good news with?

Upon receiving positive news, do you find yourself eager to share it with your partner first? A key indicator of a robust relationship is when your partner serves as not only a pillar of support during challenging times but also as the primary confidant for your triumphs. The act of sharing exciting news with them instinctively and anticipating celebrating achievements together is known as "capitalization" in psychological terms.

Studies indicate that couples who engage in actively sharing and rejoicing in each other's successes tend to cultivate more resilient and content relationships. This practice fosters a sense of unity and camaraderie within the partnership, reinforcing the idea that your happiness is intertwined with theirs.

Mark Travers, PhD, is a psychologist who specializes in relationships. He holds degrees from Cornell University and the University of Colorado Boulder. He is the lead psychologist at Awake Therapy, a telehealth company that provides online psychotherapy, counseling and coaching. He is also the curator of the popular mental health and wellness website, Therapytips.org.